 YOU ARE AFTER TWO VERY DIFFERENT THINGS -
A relationship cannot survive if the two parties involved are not after the same things. If you want to be in a serious committed relationship, but your boyfriend is thinking of it as a more casual type of situation, then you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Don’t put yourself in the perfect position to get hurt. If you are looking for a potential husband, then you should be dating a man who is looking to settle down. If you are focused on your career right now and not on fostering a long-term romance, then you shouldn’t be with a man who is focused on taking your relationship to the next level of commitment. It doesn’t make any sense to pair yourself up with a guy who has different intentions than you do. After you have been dating someone exclusively for a while, you should have a talk about where your relationship is headed and where both of you want to see it going. The reason that you should wait a little while, like a couple of months, before you have the “where is this relationship headed” talk is because you need to give yourself time to figure out your feelings, and so does your boyfriend. Until the two of you have established yourselves as a couple, it is too soon to make a judgment about your desires for the future. Remember, just because you decide that you think that this relationship is worth taking to the next level, that doesn’t mean that the relationship is certainly going to last – it just means that you are both willing to find out. If you have the talk and you find out that he is not interested in making things more serious and you are, then you will be able to spare yourself of further hurt feelings by ending the relationship. If you don’t talk about what the two of you want, then you are going to wind up putting your heart on your sleeve for nothing. Even if the talk doesn’t go the way you wished it would have, it is still better to find out what your boyfriend’s intentions are so that you don’t waste your time in a relationship with someone who is not on the same page as you.
ABUSE -
You should never stay in a relationship with a man who is physically or emotionally abusive towards you. Physical abuse is not something that you should forgive under any circumstances – you are worth far more than a relationship that involves domestic violence. Your boyfriend may apologize until he is red in the face, but you have to stay strong and put yourself first. If he hit you once, then you have absolutely no reason to believe him when he tells you that it will never happen again, and you should not stick around to find out. Second chances are not something that should be afforded to everyone, and violent situations are a prime example of the unforgivable when it comes to a romantic relationship. You deserve better – you deserve someone who will respect you and your safety – not someone who endangers you. If you are worried that your boyfriend will become physically abusive when you break it off, then do it in a well lit public place, and be prepared to call the police. If he threatens you, you should immediately call the authorities and get a restraining order of protection against him so that your safety is not compromised. Emotional abuse can hurt just as bad as the physical kind. If your boyfriend is constantly berating you and putting you down, you should break up with him right away. If he tries to control your life by keeping tabs on your every move and monitoring your interactions with family and friends, then you need to get out of the relationship. You are in the boss of you, no matter what. Your boyfriend has no right whatsoever to dictate your existence and you need to respect yourself enough to leave a man who tries to control and hurt you.
LACK OF TRUST -
If your relationship lacks trust, then you are better off without the relationship. Honesty is the most important policy for a happy couple. It is very hard to get over deception. If you are suspicious that your boyfriend has not been faithful to you, then how are you going to enjoy your time together? First off, figure out why you don’t trust your boyfriend. If it is because you have had boyfriends cheat on you in the past, then you might be behaving unfairly. You can not transfer your mistrust of one man to another. You have to work on your ability to trust. If, on the other hand, you have caught your boyfriend in lies or he has been exhibiting signs of infidelity, or if he has cheated in the past and you forgave him but suspect he is up to his old tricks again, then you should break up with him. Trying to love someone that you do not trust will make you become a jealous and insecure person, and that is not who you want to be.
  Frankly speaking flirting is an art and you need special skills to master it. You do not have to be some beauty queen or a celebrity to make guys fall for you and go gaga over you. All you need is your gorgeous smile and few guaranteed flirting tips like the ones you'll find below to attract the opposite sex.
Rule 1 # Eyes have it all -
Lock eyes with the person you're flirting with for a full five to six seconds, then smile and drop your gaze. Please don't stare at him and make him feel embarrassed. Just give him a soft smoldering look and look away. Do this at least three times in a ten to fifteen-minute period. This way you will make him know that you are interested and approachable.
Rule 2 # Smile -
Smiling is absolutely the most effective tool in your flirting toolbox. Psychology and body language experts agree that one of the most important things you can do to make yourself more attractive (and approachable) is to smile.
Rule 3 # Expose your neck -
One of the most winning flirting techniques a woman can use is the exposure of her neck. This can be done with a head tilt to one side, the classic hair flip or the over-the-shoulder glance. According to body language experts this asymmetrical position attracts attention, exposes your neck, and makes a woman very attractive and sexy. The over-the-shoulder move also sends a signal to your target that he is worth a second look.
Rule 4 # Lip Service -
Both men and women are subconsciously attracted to red, moist lips because they signal youth, sex and fertility. Always wear a red lipstick which not only gives your lips that youthful colour, but also makes your smile more visible and your teeth whiter. A super-shiny lip gloss can also give you an advantage, making your lips look moist and kissable.
Rule 5 # Focus, Focus, Focus -
Once you and your flirting target have started talking, use these tips to deepen the attraction. First, smile and maintain eye contact as you are speaking, and focus all of your attention on what he is saying. If you aren't listening then that shows that you are not interested. Smiling and laughing are crucial here - it's the quickest, easiest way to put another person at ease and make a connection. Finally, another effective flirting technique is low-level touching such as brushing the shoulder or elbow.
"We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever. Pause and ponder. Think before you act. Be patient. Forgive & forget. Love one and all.
If you judge people, you have no time to love them". -- Mother Teresa.
For Her -
Women are so much more subtle about flirting clues that men need to really pay attention. Ladies, men are not used to women flirting with them. An overwhelming majority of men said they would just love it if a woman would talk to them first or at least express a larger clue that you were interested in checking them out.
Repeated contact - at least three separate verbal or non-verbal clues need to be given. Why? The first time he's going to look around and make sure it's really him that you are flirting with. The second, he knows it's him and he gets flushed and pleased. (At this point he'll probably walk by you and at least smile..he's checking you out a little more.) The third time you can express interest-by introducing yourself, or commenting on his tie, or waving from across the room. Now he knows you are open to meeting and it will be a cinch.
Whisper - it always gets their attention. Ask them if you can tell them a secret...Then whisper in their ear: 'I just love your tie...can I buy it from you when you are done with it?'
Don't sit with other women - men don't want you to reject them in front of an audience. If you do go out with a friend...separate every so often or take a breather from talking...men do not want to risk your disapproval by interrupting you. (You have already missed out on a lot of quality polite men who didn't want to interrupt.)
Treat men gently - If someone you are not interested in approaches you and flirts ...be nice.... All the other men are watching to see what you do. If you laugh after he leaves or show visual disapproval, you are cutting your chances on anyone else approaching you. Try shaking his hand and saying something like: 'It was so nice of you to approach me...what's your name? Tom? Tom, I know how hard it is to meet people...I might have a girlfriend who would be interested in you.'
IF he acts like a Jerk - Be polite but firm. Hand him a copy of the men's version of 'Flirting with Greatness' and ask him to go practice on someone else. Firmly say that 'lines' with sexual overtones are not only not attractive to you but to most other women in the world.
Use the Buddy system - Walk through a group of men and have someone watch to see who's checking you out.
Become More Irresistible - Show a little leg....wear higher heels...the redder the lipstick the more available and noticeable you will be. Arch your back a little as you sit up tall and cross your legs high. Wear earrings that are interesting enough to make someone comment on them.
Look over your shoulder - and smile at him. This asymmetrical position is always a signal you are interested.
Give him a look all over from head to toe - nod with approval and then flash him your most winning smile.
Remember that flirting is a way of connecting from the heart and acknowledging someone. Be generous! Have Fun!
- How to be a Good BoyFriend -
Getting a girlfriend isn’t so hard, but keeping one is. To be a good boyfriend, you have to have good relationship skills. You have to be willing to make sacrifices for the woman that you are with, and you have to be trustworthy. Your priority should be making your girlfriend happy. Here are some tips for being the best boyfriend you can be:
ONLY THE HONEST WILL SURVIVE
Obviously, a good boyfriend does not cheat on his girlfriend. That’s a pretty basic rule, but it is also very important that you remember not to break it. Some men feel that being in a monogamous relationship is extremely difficult. Men are praised by society and the media when they’re able to be with multiple women at one time – they are fondly referred to as “players” and “ladies men.” And women, on the other hand, are labeled “sluts” and “whores.” It is a complete double standard. Either a man or woman is in the wrong if they decide to be unfaithful to their relationship. Cheating is wrong, it is hurtful, and it is detrimental to trust. If you cheat on your girlfriend, she’s going to have a very hard time forgiving you. If she does forgive you, she is always going to have a very hard time trust in you. It will almost certainly ruin your relationship. The foundation of a healthy relationship has to be trust, and without it, a relationship cannot thrive. If you don’t think that you are going to be able to resist the temptation of sleeping with other women when you are in a relationship with one woman, then you need to get out of the relationship. Sneaking around, even if you don’t think that you’re going to get caught, is very wrong. Do not try to convince yourself that the occasional non-emotional fling is acceptable male behavior. One night stands still absolutely constitute infidelity. Think about it this way: how would you feel if you were to discover that your girlfriend had a one night stand on her girls’ night out? If you are mature enough to be in a relationship, then you are mature enough to be faithful to your lady. While cheating is a major league form of lying, almost any type of dishonesty is unacceptable if you are trying to be a good boyfriend. The one question that you should always say ‘no’ to regardless of your honest opinion: “Does this outfit make me look fat?”
BE ROMANTIC
If you believe that chivalry is dead, then you are not on the path to becoming a good boyfriend. You have to be romantic, sweet, and thoughtful to your girlfriend. You have to come up with creative ways to show her how much you love her and how much you care. Even after the two of you have been together for an extended period of time, you still have to take her out on dates – wine and dine her. Don’t forget to tell her how beautiful you think she is – believe me, she will never get sick of hearing it. Open the car door for her – it’s not old fashioned, it’s being a good boyfriend. Leave romantic notes for her, get her flowers for no particular occasion, or call her at work just to tell her that you are thinking about or that you’re looking for to seeing her later today. You have to continuously show her how much she means to you – you cannot take her love for granted. Keeping the romance alive is an integral part of being a good boyfriend.
GET INTERESTED
Generally speaking, women talk a lot more than men do. They talk about their feelings, and they want you to talk about yours. While you might not find the subjects incredibly interesting, they are incredibly important to your relationship, and you need to realize that. When your girlfriend wants to talk to you about something, you have to listen. And not only do you have to listen, but you have to be an active participant in the conversation – monosyllabic answers are not good boyfriend material. When she asks you what your feelings are about a particular issue, tell her. Don’t say “I don’t know” and never respond with an unintelligible grunt. Just tell her, honestly, how you feel. When the two of you are out shopping and she is trying on outfits, try to get interested. When she is telling you about her friends, get interested. If something is important to her, it should be important to you. Plus, if you pay attention to the things that are important to her, she will do the same for you. A good relationship is a give and take, and to be a good boyfriend you’ll have to give as much as you are planning to take.
SEND FLOWERS AND GIFTS
Apart from all above tips, girls always welcome flowers and gifts on different occasions even if there is no special occasion. A red rose is still what your girl friend loves. Flowers represents and express feelings in the variety of ways by sending different combinations of bouquet. You may want to acquaint with the colors and combination of roses to send.
 Ways to Make Sex Sexier
Bored of doing the same old stuff in the bedroom, has sex become a chore? Or do you just want to try some new things? Well, why not spice up your love life with these simple ideas and gimmicks? You won’t be able to wait for the clock to strike the magic hour when you can hit the sack with your partner!
When you are not together, email the first two sentences of a fantasy. Tell him that he is to respond with the other two lines. Keep mailing each other till the time you both come home.
Touching your partner in sexy ways outside the bedroom — a squeeze here, a kiss there — will remind you both that the routines of the day can make way for nights of magic. And are you too embarrassed to make the first move? Don’t be! Reach out for your man. He will love it and it will make you feel that you are in control.
And by the way, when love is in the air, what is that happy family picture doing on the wall? Surely, you don’t want to be reminded of your parents or siblings or kids when you are about to make some hot moves! So, do take that family picture off the bedroom wall, will you?
Now that you are ready to go, lay him down and read aloud from the fantasies in Nancy Friday's My Secret Garden or any other favourite book of erotica. Don’t allow any touching to happen when reading. You can even memorize passages to whisper in his ear when you're making love, but that’s for later, right?
Now, get your partner ready for a backrub, but blindfold him/her first. The lack of sight will leave him/her aching for your touch, wondering what comes next. Make each other mad with anticipation! Brush your fingertips from the top of his legs down to his toes. This light touch will increase the heat and awaken all your partner’s senses. You could also lick the inside of his/her elbows. Pay attention to areas that are not often touched. This will give your partner goose bumps.
After this, start fooling around with each other. Getting there, but not doing it, like when you were in high school or college! Make the shedding of your clothes dramatic. You can take on the persona of a seductive character from your favorite movie, or a favourite actor or actress. Feel how he/she uses his/her body differently from you. Your partner is sure to notice, even if you don't tell him/her.
Ladies, you can convert your lacy scarf into a sexy prop. Your man may have got used to seeing you nude, but shrouding yourself in a little mystery will remind him of the days when sex was full of mystique and anticipation. Wrap it around your hips, and torso and drive him crazy!
Do follow (some of) these tips and watch your sex life take off
 Great Sex in the Great Outdoors
Once you’ve experimented with the sex in various exiting places in your home, it’s time to move out to experiment.
Sex in the Car
One of the most popular places to have sex outside the four walls is the car. As a kid in high school, you may have had this experience already, but it’s a good way to put some zing into your love life even at a later stage.
Most prefer the backseat to the front. Sex in a car is supposed to be restricted and tricky. So the car that you choose is naturally important. The proposal is to find a car sufficiently big, but not too big. SUV’s will not do because they are too comfortable, a lot like a couch.
Now, where to park the car? You want to find a spot that's private, but not too private. Sex in a car is exhilarating because you are in public and someone might see. You do have the option of driving out to a nearby forest where you are visible to no body but that’s no fun, is it? It’s better to find a place like a park or a parking area where cars are passing through. At night no one can really see what's going on while whizzing past in a car. One thing you must be careful about is to watch out for the police who are on the prowl. A good idea is to keep your clothes on if you don’t want to be arrested for indecent exposure. Another skill you need to develop while having car sex is to ‘up and move’ the moment anyone comes close. So you have to make sure that your antenna is up for an unexpected presence.
Another advantage of car sex is that while cruising around in a car is that if you come across a lonely spot, quickly jump out and ‘do it’!
Public Loos
Imagine this: You and your partner go to a hi-fly restaurant and, halfway through dinner, maybe just after a couple of glasses of wine and starters, quickly go to the restroom and have it off! Five star hotels or upmarket restaurants usually have really nice toilets and you can do it either standing up or even on the commode!
It's generally safer for women to enter men's rooms. Just make sure you’re your toilet is locked…..unless, of course, you want your neighbour to take a dekko!
Museums and Libraries
Museums and libraries, especially on hot summer afternoons are pretty deserted. Check out a time when the librarian is likely to be dozing, and then choose a shelf where your favourite author’s works are kept. You’ll probably get some intellectual stimulation too!
The Beach
The beach provides many chances for outdoor sex. If you are truly adventurous, you can make out under a beach blanket in view of thousands of people….but they don’t know what’s going on, right? For a little more privacy, try wading into the ocean. You get more seclusion the deeper you go. Just make sure that you come out with your swimsuits, though!
Rooftops and Balconies
Rooftops are really fun. You get a view of the city or at least the surrounding area! If you have a balcony, that could be fun too, with the moon shining down on you! If you hear some late night visitors coming, run indoors!
At the Theatre
Remember that while necking in the theatre or movie hall is reasonably easy, theatre sex may not be so. You’ll have to ask the man in the ticket booth as to which is the least popular movie and buy tickets in the last row.
Well, once you’ve started on your sexual sojourns, we guarantee, there will be no looking back and no more boredom. So, get going and enjoy…..
 Ah, the art of romance! Sweet, subtle tokens of affection- a glance, a touch a kiss. If you have tried all the ‘usual’ ideas for romance, spend a little time here getting some extra ideas for your next romantic rendezvous.
Enjoying and getting to know one another go hand-in-hand. Romance can be cultivated through thoughts, words, and deeds. Preparing a night of romance can also include a bit of fun and a bit of role-playing. But to get the engine of romance revving, why not prepare one of these drinks and get going?
Drink for Getting into the Mood
Vanilla Aphrodisiac Smoothie
1 cup Milk
15 Whole Cloves
15 Cardamom pods
2 Cinnamon sticks
1 Vanilla pod, split
1 cup Vanilla frozen Yogurt
Honey to taste
Place milk, cloves, cardamom, and cinnamon in a saucepan. Scrape in vanilla seeds from pod. Heat milk but do not boil. Remove from heat and allow it to cool, then refrigerate until chilled. Strain milk into a blender goblet and discard spices. Add frozen yogurt and honey to taste. Blend until smooth and frothy. Delicious!
Kama Sutra Shake
1 tbsp clarified Butter (heat the butter till it froths and skim with a muslin filter)
1 tsp Honey
1 tsp Liquorice powder
150 ml Milk
150 ml centrifuged Fennel juice
Wash and dry the fennel. Centrifuge to obtain 150 ml of liquid. Pour into the blender with the other ingredients and process.
20 Questions to take you Places…
While dinner is cooking, pour two glasses of aphrodisiac beverage, put on some relaxing music and play ‘20 questions.’ Dare to ask! You may just find out something you didn't know about your mate.
Here are some questions to get you started. Don't be afraid to think of some, more intimate ones of your own as well.
If you could be any age for just one day what age would you be?
Would you ever go skinny-dipping?
Do you believe in love at first sight?
What kind of clothing do you feel most sexy in?
What is your favourite song?
If you could have lunch with anyone past or present who would it be?
Who is your hero?
Do you like scary films?
What holiday do you really look forward to each year?
What are two most erogenous parts of your body?
Have you ever watched an X movie?
Have you ever had a full body massage?
If someone dared you would you be a stripper for one night?
What is the most outrageous place you have ever made love?
What are your three most important goals to achieve this year?
Besides your parents who knows you best?
What one person has helped you change for the better?
Have you ever played Strip Poker?
Have you ever read the Kama Sutra?
Would you ever run for a public office
Food for Love
No ‘promising’ relationship was ever enhanced by a plain bowl of soup or a sandwich. Prepare a special dinner with dishes that will create an atmosphere that promotes romance, passion, and communion. Forget the traditional aphrodisiacs such as frog saliva, mandrakes, powdered rhinoceros’ horns, or the liquorice teas used in the days of old. Turn, instead, to delicious recipes from around the world, laden with flavours, enticing aromas and miraculous ingredients with which to tempt your love. In no time at all you’ll be on your way to something provocatively appetizing. On your menu of seduction, add the following dishes.
Soupe à l’oignon gratineé — Onion soup
4 sliced Onions
3 tbsps Butter
2 tbsps Flour
500 ml Stock
6 slices country bread toasted in the oven
100 gms grated Gruyère
Brown the onion rings in the butter in a non-stick pan. Keep the heat low and stir often so they do not stick. When they start colouring add the flour and stir for a minute, then add the stock. Cook for 25 minutes. Butter a small oven dish and line the bottom with 2 slices of toast. Pour some stock on top and a grating of Gruyère cheese and repeat three times adding butter to the last layer. Grill until a fine golden crust forms on the top.
Lovers Salad — Insalata Degli Innamorati
1 Avocado
300 gms shelled, boiled Shrimp, fresh or frozen
2 Celery hearts diced
4 Walnuts, shelled
Mayonnaise
Tomato ketchup
Cream
Halve the skin, remove the pit stone and dice the pulp of the avocado into small pieces. Drop the shrimp into boiling water for 30 seconds and cool. Put the avocado in a bowl with the shrimp, the celery, and the chopped walnuts. Dress with a pink sauce obtained by mixing 4 tbsp. of lemon mayonnaise with one tbsp each of ketchup and cream. Fill the avocado halves with the mixture and refrigerate until ready to serve.
Clean Up
Who said getting clean isn't fun? Start by acquiring some lightly scented candles. Also pick up your favourite brand of bubble bath! Then splurge on a rich creamy shampoo and conditioner! After the food, drinks and game, your lover will probably be full of passion. Add on to the flames by sprinkling rose petals from the bedroom door to the bathtub. After dinner, suggest that you go for a "romantic bath".
After you lead your lover to the bath tub, gently light the candles that you have strategically arranged around the bathroom area. (NEVER LEAVE CANDLES UNATTENDED!) We leave the rest to your imagination.
Now plan your date and enjoy!
Aphrodisiac Facts
Almonds
Almonds were regarded as fertility symbols throughout antiquity. Nuts in general are held to have fertility powers. The aroma of almond supposedly arouses passion in females. Alexander Dumas dined on almond soup every night before meeting his mistress, and Samson wooed Delilah with them.
Avocado
Aside from their voluptuous, feminine shape, avocados have also been associated with male sexuality. The Aztecs called the avocado tree "Ahuacuatl," or "testicle tree." The ancients thought the fruit hanging in pairs on the tree resembled the male's testicles. The Spanish, in fact, found avocados so obscenely sexy, that Catholic priests forbade them to their parishioners.
Oysters
These succulent mollusks are the classic aphrodisiac. And, there's research to support it: raw oysters are very high in zinc, which raises sperm and testosterone production, thus increasing libido. Oysters are also a source of dopamine. Casanova is said to have eaten 50 raw oysters every day
 While many couples seem to have to struggle to keep the fires of passion going in their marriage, there are some who can’t wait to get together in bed. Ms. Feelwel checks out the factors that are the passion-killers and suggests how to have a steamy sex life even after several years of marriage.
“I don’t enjoy sex at all. I’ve been married seven years and our sex life is so boring, that really, I’d just rather not have it. Yes, we did enjoy sex once but now it’s a chore. Help!!”- Archana
This cry for help is not Archana’s alone. And, really, there’s no shortage of factors that can ruin a couple’s sex lives- busy schedules, kids, aging bodies. But physical intimacy is glue that holds a marriage or a relationship together. You may argue that there are plenty of factors like shared history, family, friendship etc that will keep your relationship going but if the sexual dry spell in your marriage doesn’t come to a timely halt, there is reason even for the marriage to break up.
Remember, sex is hugely important, especially when neither partner is allowed to go anywhere to get it. Also, it’s not just about physical release, right? It’s about feeling wanted and connected. When this intimacy fades, so does intimacy on all other levels. Couples will stop sharing laughs together, engaging in conversation or snuggling on the couch. They will be in conflict over matters which actually stem from sexual dissatisfaction but will manifest themselves in trivialities. The more discord there is in a relationship, the less thee couple is going to want to have sex. But don’t fear, dear readers, Ms. Feelwel is going to tell you how to break out of this vicious circle and let you into the:
Secrets of Couples Who Have Lots and Lots of Sex.
Set a Weekly Sex Goal:
Give sex a top billing, no matter that you have to juggle a million things to do so. Pick a number at random from one to ten on Sunday evening. Suppose the number you pick is eight, you have to have sex eight times before the week ends. If three days go by and you’ve had sex only twice, you have to find the time and the place- whether it’s in the garage while the kids are playing in the backyard or while you are getting a bath - together.
Make the Mood Happen:
Don’t wait for your libido to start up. If it’s not springing into action, give it a crank-start. A true carnal connoisseur will never sit around, waiting for desire to set her/him awash. Well, that way you may have to wait for a long, long time. Kick-start your libido with some X-rated thoughts. You could also read some erotica, see a sexy movie and get yourself into a fired-up state that will lead you straight to bed- and not to sleep, I may add!!
Trade the Turns –Change Roles:
Many couples have different schedules so it may happen that when you are raring to go, your partner is dead beat. But there is a way around this. The partner who is high on energy at the given moment can become the sexual ringmaster while the other just lies back, relaxes and enjoys the ride. There is no need for any guilt to be attached to this because the favour will be returned very soon, yes?
There is another advantage to alternating the take-charge roles- there is always a fresh energy flowing and you can double the number of sex-capades. And both of you work at keeping the thrills ‘coming’
Every Time is a Good Time:
You can’t really be a devil in bed if you’ve scheduled sex in the time slot between 10 O’ clock and the time you fall asleep. Exciting sex can’t happen if you make it a bedtime ritual. The truly satisfied couples find their own little niches where sex will be the best. While some may find it great when they both return from work and strip off each-other’s office clothes while other carnally successful couples will schedule it after they wake in the morning, the time they have completely to themselves. And how about weekend afternoons, holiday mornings after coffee- don’t be discriminating- just go for complete satisfaction, anytime, every time!
Play the Song:
Music can get you in the mood instantaneously! There is some music that you associate with awesome sex, and some that will steer you straight into the bedroom. If it’s the mood you want, get the music going and your partner will catch the signals and you can make some beautiful music together.
Make Sex a Panacea:
If you are a sexy siren, you know all too well that sex can actually alleviate stress, exhaustion and marital tension. So the very reasons that you use to NOT go to bed with your partner are reasons to have sex. Having sex will actually energise you rather than drain you out so you should look for opportunities to use some loving to boost up your energy levels. When you are tired, instead of shrugging off your partner’s attempts at seduction, welcome them, and your lovemaking frequency will certainly increase. Stop thinking of sex as yet another chore on your to-do list but start looking at it as a way to connect with your partner and feeling more relaxed and calmer. So do slip into the sack when you’re tired but take your partner with you!
Heighten Your Sense of Desire:
Think sexy the whole day long. Don’t reserve sex for the bedroom alone but do things that will add the libidinous spice to everyday activities. Consciously add some sexual flavours into different areas of your life. E.g. wear silky underwear, buy yourself an ice-cream cone and eat it in a suggestive way or take a sensuous shower with all kinds of scrubs and creams. All of this will keep you on a high erotic energy level.
To get your partner at the same level, give him a dose as well. When you are dressing for work, stretch out and give him a little view of your beautiful body, ask him for a towel when you are bathing, give him a call from work and tell him to get ready for something special in the evening. Sex just has to happen that night!!
Wherever, However:
Make frequent sex your philosophy. A lot of sex, no matter of what kind, is essential to a healthy relationship. If sex has to be a quickie sometimes, so be it. Just because it’s quick, doesn’t mean it’s not good. So go for the fast- and -furious romp if that’s all you have the time for. If your kids are coming back in 20 minutes, you certainly don’t have the time for the serenade and the candles, do you?
All of these simple tips can be easily incorporated into your schedule and before you know it, you’re going to be burning up the bed sheets. Join the legions of the extra-passionate and discover that your packed day is full of opportunities to tear your clothes off!! So why wait? Just go for the high energy passion!
 RECOMMENDED TO RELEASE STRESS.....
This is so funny...take time to read all the way to the end.
The following is from a British journalist stationed in the Philippines .
His observations are so hilarious!!! ! This was written in 1999.
Matter of Taste
By Matthew Sutherland
I have now been in this country for over six years, and consider myself in most respects well assimilated. However, there is one key step on the road to full assimilation, which I have yet to take, and that's to eat BALUT.
The day any of you sees me eating balut, please call immigration and ask them to issue me a Filipino passport. Because at that point, there will
be no turning back.
BALUT, for those still blissfully ignorant non-Pinoys out there, is a fertilized duck egg. It is commonly sold with salt in a piece of newspaper, much like English fish and chips, by street vendors usually after dark, presumably so you can't see how gross it is.
It's meant to be an aphrodisiac, although I can't imagine anything more likely to dispel sexual desire than crunching on a partially formed
baby duck swimming in noxious fluid. The embryo in the egg comes in varying stages of development, but basically it is not considered macho to eat one without fully discernable feathers, beak, and claws. Some say these crunchy bits are the best.
Others prefer just to drink the so-called 'soup', the vile, pungent liquid that surrounds the aforementioned feathery fetus...excuse me; I have to go and throw up now. I'll be back in a minute.
Food dominates the life of the Filipino. People here just love to eat.
They eat at least eight times a day. These eight official meals are called, in order: breakfast, snacks, lunch, merienda, merienda ceyna, dinner, bedtime snacks and no-one-saw-me- take-that- cookie-from- the- fridge-so-it- doesn't-count.
The short gaps in between these mealtimes are spent eating Sky Flakes Crackers from the open packet that sits on every desktop. You're never far from food in the Philippines . If you doubt this, next time you're driving home from work, try this game. See how long you can drive without seeing food and I don't mean a distant restaurant, or a picture of food. I mean a man on the sidewalk frying fish balls, or a man walking through the traffic selling nuts or candy. I bet it's less than one minute.
Here are some other things I've noticed about food in the Philippines :
Firstly, a meal is not a meal without rice - even breakfast. In the UK , I could go a whole year without eating rice. Second, it's impossible
to drink without eating. A bottle of San Miguel just isn't the same without gambas or beef tapa. Third, no one ventures more than two paces
from their house without baon (food in small container) and a container of something cold to drink. You might as well ask a Filipino to leave
home without his pants on. And lastly, where I come from, you eat with a knife and fork. Here, you eat with a spoon and fork. You try eating
rice swimming in fish sauce with a knife.
One really nice thing about Filipino food culture is that people always ask you to SHARE their food. In my office, if you catch anyone attacking their "baon", they will always go, "Sir! KAIN TAYO!" ("Let's eat!"). This confused me, until I realized that they didn't actually expect me to sit down and start munching on their boneless bangus. In fact, the polite response is something like, "No thanks, I just ate." But the principle is sound - if you have food on your plate, you are expected to share it, however hungry you are, with those who may be even hungrier. I think
that's great!
In fact, this is frequently even taken one step further. Many Filipinos use "Have you eaten yet?" ("KUMAIN KA NA?") irrespective of time of day or location. and or "Where are you going?" ("SAAN KA PUPUNTA?) as a general greeting, they will just respond as "Just right there." ("DIYAN LANG.") And they don't tell you where they are going.
Some foreigners think Filipino food is fairly dull compared to other Asian cuisines. Actually lots of it is very good: Spicy dishes like Bicol Express
(strange, a dish named after a train); anything cooked with coconut milk; anything KINILAW; and anything ADOBO. And it's hard to beat the sheer wanton, cholesterolic frenzy of a good old-fashioned LECHON de leche (roast pig) feast. Dig a pit, light a fire, add 50 pounds of animal fat on a stick, and cook until crisp. Mmm, mmm... you can actually feel your arteries constricting with each successive mouthful.
I also share one key Pinoy trait ---a sweet tooth. I am thus the only foreigner I know who does not complain about sweet bread, sweet burgers,
sweet spaghetti, sweet banana ketchup, and so on. I am a man who likes to put jam on his pizza. Try it!
It's the weird food you want to avoid. In addition to duck fetus in the half-shell, items to avoid in the Philippines include pig's blood soup (DINUGUAN); bull's testicle soup, the strangely-named "SOUP NUMBER FIVE" (I dread to think what numbers one through four are); and the ubiquitous, stinky shrimp paste, BAGOONG, and it's equally stinky sister, PATIS. Filipinos are so addicted to these latter items that they will even risk arrest or deportation trying to smuggle them into countries like Australia and the USA , which wisely ban the importation of items you can smell from more than 100 paces.
Then there's the small matter of the purple ice cream. I have never been able to get my brain around eating purple food; the ubiquitous UBE leaves me cold.
And lastly on the subject of weird food, beware: that KALDERETANG KAMBING (goat) could well be KALDERETANG ASO (dog)...
The Filipino, of course, has a well-developed sense of food. Here's a typical Pinoy food joke: "I'm on a seafood diet. "What's a seafood
diet?" "When I see food, I eat it!"
Filipinos also eat strange bits of animals --- the feet, the head, the guts, etc., usually barbecued on a stick. These have been given witty names, like "ADIDAS" (chicken's feet); "KURBATA" (either just chicken's neck, or "neck and thigh" as in "neck-tie"); "WALKMAN" (pigs ears); "PAL" (chicken wings); "HELMET" (chicken head); "IUD" (chicken intestines), and BETAMAX" (video-cassette- like blocks of animal blood). Yum, yum. Bon appetit.
"A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches"-- (Proverbs 22:1)
WHEN I arrived in the Philippines from the UK six years ago, one of the first cultural differences to strike me was names. The subject
has provided a continuing source of amazement and amusement ever since. The first unusual thing, from an English perspective, is that everyone here has a nickname. In the staid and boring United Kingdom , we have nicknames in kindergarten, but when we move into adulthood we tend, I am glad to say, to lose them.
The second thing that struck me is that Philippine names for both girls and boys tend to be what we in the UK would regard as overbearingly cutesy for anyone over about five. Fifty-five-year- olds colleague put it. Where I come from, a boy with a nickname like Boy Blue or Honey
Boy would be beaten to death at school by pre-adolescent bullies, and never make it to adulthood. So, probably, would girls with names like Babes, Lovely, Precious, Peachy or Apples. Yuk, ech ech. Here, however, no one bats an eyelid.
Then I noticed how many people have what I have come to call "door- bell names".
These are nicknames that sound like -well, doorbells. There are millions of them. Bing, Bong , Ding, and Dong are some of the more common. They can be, and frequently are, used in even more door-bell-like combinations such as Bing- Bong , Ding-Dong, Ting-Ting, and so on. Even our newly appointed chief of police has a doorbell name Ping . None of these doorbell names exist where I come from, and hence sound unusually amusing to my untutored foreign ear.
Someone once told me that one of the Bings, when asked why he was called Bing, replied, "because my brother is called Bong ". Faultless logic.
Dong, of course, is a particularly funny one for me, as where I come from "dong" is a slang word for well; perhaps "talong" is the best Tagalog
equivalent.
Repeating names was another novelty to me, having never before encountered people with names like Len-Len, Let-Let, Mai-Mai, or Ning-Ning.
The secretary I inherited on my arrival had an unusual one: Leck- Leck. Such names are then frequently further refined by using the "squared" symbol, as in Len2 or Mai2. This had me very confused for a while.
Then there is the trend for parents to stick to a theme when naming their children. This can be as simple as making them all begin with the same letter, as in Jun , Jimmy, Janice, and Joy.
More imaginative parents shoot for more sophisticated forms of assonance or rhyme, as in Biboy, Boboy, Buboy, Baboy (notice the names get worse the more kids there are-best to be born early or you could end up being a Baboy).
Even better, parents can create whole families of, say, desserts (Apple Pie, Cherry Pie, Honey Pie) or flowers (Rose, Daffodil, Tulip). The main advantage of such combinations is that they look great painted across your trunk if you're a cab driver.
That's another thing I'd never seen before coming to Manila -- taxis with the driver's kids' names on the trunk.
Another whole eye-opening field for the foreign visitor is the phenomenon of the "composite" name. This includes names like Jejomar (for Jesus,
Joseph and Mary), and the remarkable Luzviminda (for Luzon, Visayas and Mindanao , believe it or not). That's a bit like me being called something like "Engscowani" (for England , Scotland , Wales and Northern Ireland ). Between you and me, I'm glad I'm not.
And how could I forget to mention the fabulous concept of the randomly inserted letter 'h'. Quite what this device is supposed to achieve, I have not yet figured out, but I think it is designed to give a touch of class to an otherwise only averagely weird name. It results in creations like Jhun, Lhenn, Ghemma, and Jhimmy. Or how about Jhun-Jhun (Jhun2)?
How boring to come from a country like the UK full of people with names like John Smith. How wonderful to come to a country where imagination and exoticism rule the world of names.
Even the towns here have weird names; my favorite is the unbelievably named town of Sexmoan (ironically close to Olongapo and Angel es). Where else in the world could that really be true?
Where else in the world could the head of the Church really be called Cardinal Sin?
Where else but the Philippines ! as my seasons change I've grown to know when one's heart creates, one's soul doesn't owe
 The old order changeth, yielding place to new,
And God fulfils Himself in many ways,
Lest one good custom should corrupt the world.” - Lord Tennyson
Perched on the precipice, we of the old school gape at the never-ending vistas of 'Cyberian scapes', which can be held captive on the desktop by a mere click of the mouse. In the deluge of Internet medium the political, geographical, religious, economic and ethnic boundaries have been reduced to irrelevance, like never before. And proudly we address this spectacular and huge world of ours with the oxymoron of ‘global village'.
If human interaction in socio-cultural, scientific fields has increased to this extent then the ever-cherished themes of -- 'love and sex'-- could not have been left untouched. Just a few years back, the virtual proximity achievable cyber medium even while sitting thousands of miles apart would have been beyond imagination. And that too with the option of revealing or not revealing one's identity? What more do we expect than the option of sharing some very intimate moments, yet maintain the garbs of anonymity. The very idea is hard to resist as armies of sex-smitten people indulge in fetish and raunchy talk -- to give vent to their hidden sexual desires, which perhaps they could never do in their real lives. Their actual lives embroiled in the urgencies of seeking livelihood, people seek solace (read nirvana) in the privacy of the desktop. Once done out of curiosity as an experiment, it gradually assumes permanence of addiction.
There are both for and against arguments on cyber sex. For those in its favour clamour over the fact that it is like giving vent to your pent up sexual desires while indulging in virtual sex. It is not perfidious activity as you are not involved in an amorous adventure in flesh and blood.
There are examples like the one of that jet-setting executive who found his house was a mere point on the globe - a destination where he had to spend some time before he moved ahead on his next assignment. The bored wife having nothing to do after the kids left home for school took to chatting, which ultimately ended up in securing her a cyber sex partner in the USA. Here is a classic case over which we can study the pros and cons of this neo-eroticism. Net sex, if it is secret and well kept would help one fulfil some of the most voluptuous desires without breaking the moral cordons of the society. This lady was satisfied in sharing her orgies with her American friend while remaining in the confines of her home. For had it not been the cyber sex, where else the love-thirsty wife would have found satisfaction? Where else but in sex in real life! And what does that mean? An extra- marital affair in plain words followed by a break up. Look how cyber sex prevented the crashing of her marriage too! (And God forbid if some spy ware installed by her husband were ever to trace her net talk -what would be the consequences- a divorce. (The courts in the western countries have accepted net sex as sufficient evidence for divorce). And we would be forced to call cyber sex both the saviour and the wrecker of a marriage in the same breath.
So at least cyber sex plays the vital role in the lives of even the most dissatisfied indoors to find gratification somewhere else in real life. But it is a fact that a lot of marriages and true-life relationships have fallen victims to the virtual sex. A chance stumbling of your partner into what could be your private territory can lead to the chasm being created. And once it is created, it results in more and more doubts and suspicions till the world falls apart. Some traditionalists argue that once the thin line of overt sexual activity is broken even in the impersonal perversion of cyber sex-- an act of deception has happened.
Yes, there are huge numbers of people who remain unsatisfied with the physical and emotional aspects of their life partners. Cyber sex for them is an expedient choice between sin and suppression. The votaries of cosmopolitanism find another argument in favour of indulging in cyber sex. They believe it gives a cosmopolitan flavour to one's sexual life without doing as much as to venture out of the house. One can chat and have cyber sex with any number of people from around the world - choosing a male or a female of one's choice. One particular young man who was more interested in Eastern women indulged in all kinds of sadomasochistic talk with Chinese, Thai and Korean women to fulfil his desires. There are some who practically enact the orgies in their real lives, which they learn in 'cyberian fantasies'.
Sex specialists believe that it actually catalyses the sex lives of those couples that have lost interest in sex. The addition of gizmos like web cams, voice chats do add their bit to make the distinction between reality and virtual reality very thin. So can it also be argued that cyber sex has emerged as a therapy for those who have prematurely lost interest in sex? Some social sciences experts feel that cyber sex would play a critical part in opening up the society like ours that is stranded in the labyrinth of cultural and social inertias for centuries.
But the negative aspect of cyber sex is an increase in cyber crimes. With cyber police still being a non-entity, a lot of gullible and innocent people fall prey to deception. They travel hundreds of miles, putting their families and career in jeopardy to seek what is not! Yes, one thing that must be giving sleepless nights to the past generation is that more and more youngsters are indulging in 'passionate keyboard bashing'. We can well imagine the hell these kinds of mental sex orgies must be wreaking on the tender minds - who really don't know what is right or wrong for them?
And there are other social evils that are spreading fast through this otherwise innocuous mode of communication. There are reports of pedophiles prying on young children. Law more often than not prove toothless in this chaotic, crazy cyber world, where it cannot be fathomed who is after whom.
Cyber sex being a creation of recent years; it is hard to be judgmental about it. Its effects, side effects and ill effects would be borne by posterity. Perhaps like always, time would be the 'Last Judge' on the issue.  Life has witnessed an exponential rise in activity since the time Davies wrote these lines. Twentieth century saw the growth of automobile and the airplanes; telephones and television. The modern man is sandwiched between increasing workloads and shrinking deadlines. For the modern man love-making as an extended voluptuous experience is increasingly becoming a rarity. Where in fact is the time to stand and stare at your love-partner, emanating sensuousness from the eyes, admiring body contours and indulging in foreplay?
Invariably, the needles of the watch have become the masters of our destiny. 'Instant' is the mantra these days—instant foods, instant clothing, and instant cricket and now we increasingly feel the need for instant sex. Human tendency, however, is never in favour of shorter versions of amorous games, as the thirst is never satisfied by swift and sweet adventures. We want to linger on and want more and more but the exigencies of schedules and activities are making full-blooded sex uncommon. Hence, we have the invention of a quickie. Quickie is quick action love-making.
Where can you have a hurried bout of sex? Possibly, anywhere with or without the roof. It could be before or in the bath, or during the lunch hours in a secluded storeroom of your workplace. A nook of the gallery you are visiting; a recess into the woods off a busy motorway could well also serve as the venue to release the pent up sexual desires.
Sometimes you find two friends from the ongoing party conspicuously missing without information. And while you frantically, try to search them, they coolly slither back into the crowd. Propriety suggests that you don't ask where they have been. The couple could have made good their time with a quickie in the protected confines of their parked car.
The car halt in the garage, may well spontaneously give rise to palpitations in the groin. And before you come to terms with reality, a quickie has provided you with a much-needed respite before you drown yourselves in household chores. For others, a forlorn parking or a deserted end of the garden… may well come in handy. The office loo is widely used by those colleagues who are deprived of time or the courage to move out in the city. In colleges, the towering though secluded lines shelves of libraries and laboratories serve more the purpose of quest of quick sex than as fountainheads of intellectual prowess. And whatever is available at the moment- a canvas, tarpaulin, discarded car seats, gas cylinders, tyres, and broken benches come in handy to help eat the forbidden fruit in a jiffy.
Quickies have always been in vogue in the rural hinterlands. Here fear from the prying eyes rather than shortage of time has been their chief motivational cause. Lovelorn cannot move about without being noticed in small townships and villages. A bout of quick sex adds some intimacy and spice to the feeling of adoration that abounds in two breasts. So, a tall crop like cane sugar, corn or fodder or an orchard provides the perfect environment for a quickie. It’s like the game of middle order batsman who has to perform or perish. There are no hushed whispers, smooching or intimate kissing. Foreplay is forbidden. Not only for dearth of time but because excessive raunchiness can well become a torment hard to bear.
And guess, what could be the greatest deterrent for a quickie? No, it is never an unsuspected intrusion, for people may enjoy watching you in sex-a-venture than playing the spoilsport. Rather the villains are with you, or on you—a silly string, belt, buttons and tight clothing especially pants. You may take more time in taking them off than the real episode itself. And just one of them could play the devil. For you could have fiddled and frittered those precious minutes away, in a thing as worthless as untying a knot. Rightly is it said, “Time and tide wait for no one”. So, go for a quickie!  There are all these boring, though important, reasons why you should work out—for a better cardiovascular system, more stamina, a toned body... All that is great to know and to achieve. But, do you know, dear readers, that workouts also mean better sex? And hey! Before you think that I'm talking about the benefits of sex, no, I certainly am not! I had already talked of that in a previous column, remember? What I'm saying is simply that less fat means urge for more sex!
So, if you aren't motivated enough by reducing the risk of heart disease and prostate cancer, longer life spans and great physique, maybe the notion that less fat means more sex should propel you towards a body that's aiming to be a lean, mean fighting machine!
Look, sex is something that's almost automatic in our youth. Nature demands that people procreate and the younger generation definitely spends a lot of time, thought and energy on the activity, if not exactly in the process of procreation per se. However, by the time you are in your mid 20's and 30's, let yourself 'go'. Your body is no longer in shape and guess what one of the fallouts of this state is? Lacklustre, routine sex lives.
Of course, factors like the pressure to earn, family responsibilities and stress at work also interfere with great sex but when you lose that trim, fit physique of youth, sex is not as automatic, as it was, when you were younger and had that body.
So, let’s just look at the important factors that contribute to wonderful sex. Of course, the will to do is the primary motivator, but the endurance and strength of the body are very important elements as well. Everyone knows that sportsmen have great sex! And this, incidentally, is not only because their bodies are muscled and toned but also because they have the strength and energy to go for it big time!
Every Day, Sometimes More
The other factor here is that the more attractive your body is, the more interest it generates in the opposite gender. This leads to greater self-esteem, making you feel sexy.
Says Rita Aggarwal, who works in a bank: “I've been on both sides of the fitness fence. In my 30's my long working hours at a sedentary job, coupled with lack of exercise, got my body all flabby. By the time I realised that my metabolism was no longer what it used to be, when I was young, I'd become a lump of lard! Of course, my sex life took a real beating because I couldn't believe that anyone could find me desirable. I myself started feeling extremely un-sexy.”
In the Duke University survey, at the outset, 68 per cent of women said they felt sexually unattractive, and 63 per cent did not want to be seen undressed. They went on a diet and exercise programme and within a year, things improved dramatically, just as they did for Rita, who joined a gym and took to organic, health food in a big way. Today she's in her forties and she is glowing with health and vigour. “Sex?” she laughs, “Every day of the week and sometimes more!”
States Dr. Sandra Leiblum of the Centre for Sexual and Marital Therapy at UMDNJ - Robertwood Johnson Medical School, New Jersey: “No one disputes the evidence that women of any age can be unhappy with their sex life, but the reasons for their discontent change with age. While younger women are more likely to report difficulty in reaching orgasm, women over 40, cite other difficulties such as a partner, who doesn't make love in a satisfying way, or who can't perform, painful intercourse, or their feeling that they are no longer physically desirable.”
Shed Pounds: Have More Sex!
In the Duke University survey, weight loss helped both men and women significantly and even with the 10-13 per cent weight loss the improvement was marked. In the beginning, 21 per cent said that their sex life wasn't enjoyable. This figure fell by 10 per cent. From 39 per cent, who lacked sexual desire in the beginning, only 15 per cent said so a year later.
O.K.! Now we're all in agreement that great sex is achievable provided we work on our bodies. Now, how do we go about shedding those extra pounds and improving our physical and mental health?
There are a few basic rules that you need to follow-
Rule 1: To begin with, ingest fewer calories than you expend. Eat a lot of high-quality protein, moderate levels of complex carbohydrates and low levels of fat. No junk food, please! When you reach for that slice of chocolate cake, think, would you rather eat that or have sex tonight? Also, 5 to 7 small meals in a day are better than three big ones!
Rule 2: Train, train, train. Progressive resistance training adds lean muscle mass, which boosts your metabolism to burn fat faster, and, hey, you look hot as well.
Rule 3: Intensive cardiovascular exercises. You should add variety to our exercise regime by incorporating biking, aerobics, walking, all of which keeps your metabolism in great shape.
Rule 4: Take a breather. You need adequate amounts of rest and sleep to aid the muscle-building process and improving mental functioning.
Rule 5: Take diet supplements. High quality proteins like multi-vitamins, C, E and B-complex could be used. But do consult your doctor.
So, what are you waiting for? Go for it! There are great things in the offing. Go on, hit the gym, train hard, have great sex and enjoy!  Is Sex your path to spirituality? Celibacy for spirituality was the last millennium's mantra. New age gurus are re looking at the sexual experience and linking it to the spiritual realm. Let's look at what their latest findings are...
Deepak Chopra, the world's favourite new age guru, is coming out with a book which he promises, will be a 'contemporary version of the Kama Sutra.' The Kama Sutra, as every self-respecting Indian knows, is the text that sees pleasure, or Kama, as one of the four goals of life, the other three being, Dharma, Arth and Moksha.
ORGASM: A mini-SAMADHI
Chopra's delving into this topic has once again opened the subject of the connection between sex and spirituality. It reminds us of Osho, who catapulted the sex vs. spirituality controversy centre stage with his book From Sex To Super Consciousness. He propounded the view that orgasm is a mini and temporary Samadhi since it can transport you to a state of pure rapture. The mind becomes devoid of thought. Our egocentric view of life disappears and we step outside of time into the timeless. This line of thinking was so revolutionary that at that time it attracted a lot of flak.
Since then, however, this idea has been explored by thinkers and philosophers, spiritual masters and sex gurus.Margot Anand, who teaches Sky Dancing Tantra, a system that combines elements of Tantra and modern psychology, coined the term 'High Sex', defined thus: “High Sex takes the experience of orgasm to a dimension in which the genital orgasm is only the beginning. It inspires you to explore the full capacity of orgasm. Culminating in ecstatic body-to-body and soul-to-soul communion, it is an experience to the whole body, the whole being.”
SEX—POSITIVE VIEW
A widely held view seems to be that sex, long seen as the enemy of the sprit, is actually its ally. To become spiritually whole, we must liberate our sexuality from the thrall of guilt, shame and repression and allow it to find full expression as a healthy, natural and even sacred part of life.
Vikas Malkani, an Indian spiritual guide and author, is reported to have said: “Making love can become a giving, expressing, selfless act, which is a form of prayer itself. Through the body, the hearts are touched; the emotions opened and desires expressed, fears released, security given and souls merged. Through the act of physical sharing, God is remembered and revered. Making love goes from the physical level to the emotional and finally to spiritual level where it becomes a prayer to the divine.”
Deepak Chopra too, believes that “Sexual desire is sacred and chaste. The suppression of sexual energy is false, ugly and unchaste. Sexual energy is sacred energy but meaningful sex has to be value based.” Not just that but, says Chopra, “Sex is many peoples' only experience of meditation.” The belief is gaining such popularity that the spiritual practice of celibacy, considered, for the millennia, crucial for spiritual enlightenment by Christians, Buddhists and Hindus, is up for debate. Will Chopra's contemporary version of Kama Sutra be able to convince the non-believers that “once we have restored the sexual experience to the realm of the sacred, our world will be chaste and divine, holy and healed”?
We'll just have to wait and see!!  Ah, the art of romance! Sweet, subtle tokens of affection- a glance, a touch a kiss. If you have tried all the ‘usual’ ideas for romance, spend a little time here getting some extra ideas for your next romantic rendezvous.
Enjoying and getting to know one another go hand-in-hand. Romance can be cultivated through thoughts, words, and deeds. Preparing a night of romance can also include a bit of fun and a bit of role-playing. But to get the engine of romance revving, why not prepare one of these drinks and get going?
Drink for Getting into the Mood
Vanilla Aphrodisiac Smoothie
1 cup Milk
15 Whole Cloves
15 Cardamom pods
2 Cinnamon sticks
1 Vanilla pod, split
1 cup Vanilla frozen Yogurt
Honey to taste
Place milk, cloves, cardamom, and cinnamon in a saucepan. Scrape in vanilla seeds from pod. Heat milk but do not boil. Remove from heat and allow it to cool, then refrigerate until chilled. Strain milk into a blender goblet and discard spices. Add frozen yogurt and honey to taste. Blend until smooth and frothy. Delicious!
Kama Sutra Shake
1 tbsp clarified Butter (heat the butter till it froths and skim with a muslin filter)
1 tsp Honey
1 tsp Liquorice powder
150 ml Milk
150 ml centrifuged Fennel juice
Wash and dry the fennel. Centrifuge to obtain 150 ml of liquid. Pour into the blender with the other ingredients and process.
20 Questions to take you Places…
While dinner is cooking, pour two glasses of aphrodisiac beverage, put on some relaxing music and play ‘20 questions.’ Dare to ask! You may just find out something you didn't know about your mate.
Here are some questions to get you started. Don't be afraid to think of some, more intimate ones of your own as well.
If you could be any age for just one day what age would you be?
Would you ever go skinny-dipping?
Do you believe in love at first sight?
What kind of clothing do you feel most sexy in?
What is your favourite song?
If you could have lunch with anyone past or present who would it be?
Who is your hero?
Do you like scary films?
What holiday do you really look forward to each year?
What are two most erogenous parts of your body?
Have you ever watched an X movie?
Have you ever had a full body massage?
If someone dared you would you be a stripper for one night?
What is the most outrageous place you have ever made love?
What are your three most important goals to achieve this year?
Besides your parents who knows you best?
What one person has helped you change for the better?
Have you ever played Strip Poker?
Have you ever read the Kama Sutra?
Would you ever run for a public office
Food for Love
No ‘promising’ relationship was ever enhanced by a plain bowl of soup or a sandwich. Prepare a special dinner with dishes that will create an atmosphere that promotes romance, passion, and communion. Forget the traditional aphrodisiacs such as frog saliva, mandrakes, powdered rhinoceros’ horns, or the liquorice teas used in the days of old. Turn, instead, to delicious recipes from around the world, laden with flavours, enticing aromas and miraculous ingredients with which to tempt your love. In no time at all you’ll be on your way to something provocatively appetizing. On your menu of seduction, add the following dishes.
Soupe à l’oignon gratineé — Onion soup
4 sliced Onions
3 tbsps Butter
2 tbsps Flour
500 ml Stock
6 slices country bread toasted in the oven
100 gms grated Gruyère
Brown the onion rings in the butter in a non-stick pan. Keep the heat low and stir often so they do not stick. When they start colouring add the flour and stir for a minute, then add the stock. Cook for 25 minutes. Butter a small oven dish and line the bottom with 2 slices of toast. Pour some stock on top and a grating of Gruyère cheese and repeat three times adding butter to the last layer. Grill until a fine golden crust forms on the top.
Lovers Salad — Insalata Degli Innamorati
1 Avocado
300 gms shelled, boiled Shrimp, fresh or frozen
2 Celery hearts diced
4 Walnuts, shelled
Mayonnaise
Tomato ketchup
Cream
Halve the skin, remove the pit stone and dice the pulp of the avocado into small pieces. Drop the shrimp into boiling water for 30 seconds and cool. Put the avocado in a bowl with the shrimp, the celery, and the chopped walnuts. Dress with a pink sauce obtained by mixing 4 tbsp. of lemon mayonnaise with one tbsp each of ketchup and cream. Fill the avocado halves with the mixture and refrigerate until ready to serve.
Clean Up
Who said getting clean isn't fun? Start by acquiring some lightly scented candles. Also pick up your favourite brand of bubble bath! Then splurge on a rich creamy shampoo and conditioner! After the food, drinks and game, your lover will probably be full of passion. Add on to the flames by sprinkling rose petals from the bedroom door to the bathtub. After dinner, suggest that you go for a "romantic bath".
After you lead your lover to the bath tub, gently light the candles that you have strategically arranged around the bathroom area. (NEVER LEAVE CANDLES UNATTENDED!) We leave the rest to your imagination.
Now plan your date and enjoy!
Aphrodisiac Facts
Almonds
Almonds were regarded as fertility symbols throughout antiquity. Nuts in general are held to have fertility powers. The aroma of almond supposedly arouses passion in females. Alexander Dumas dined on almond soup every night before meeting his mistress, and Samson wooed Delilah with them.
Avocado
Aside from their voluptuous, feminine shape, avocados have also been associated with male sexuality. The Aztecs called the avocado tree "Ahuacuatl," or "testicle tree." The ancients thought the fruit hanging in pairs on the tree resembled the male's testicles. The Spanish, in fact, found avocados so obscenely sexy, that Catholic priests forbade them to their parishioners.
Oysters
These succulent mollusks are the classic aphrodisiac. And, there's research to support it: raw oysters are very high in zinc, which raises sperm and testosterone production, thus increasing libido. Oysters are also a source of dopamine. Casanova is said to have eaten 50 raw oysters every day
 I know today is a mixed emotion not only for me but also for you. It would be another chapter of our lives that we are going face. New environment for you to adjust with, the same thing we have deal with, for we will be apart from each other for the meantime coz, I know and I believe we will be together again soon…it would also be a trial stage for both of us. How is it like to be apart form your love one. I know that whatever comes our way we will overcome it. My trust and love for you and also our promises to each other will keep us together..! Wanna keep you forever, to be and spend the rest of my life with you. For with you I am always seeing things in the right perspective. You’re giving me so much joy and happiness in life. That if I’m with you life would much be easier.
Always remember and put in your mind I will always be here for you through your good and bad times. If you feel alone just look at star there you can see me watching you and telling you. “You will never be alone” cause I’m always around.
I want to see you always happy and smiling for that is good habit that makes me in love with you………
You taught me to value what is the present. live this day as if it is your last, live you life to the fullest for we dont know what tomorrow will bring us. Right now is what we have and we have to cherish and nourish every second that is happening in our life for there is always a hidden treasure in it, this treasure is the lesson that we've learn from our experience that keep us stong and better person.
Let us not stop learning! Lessons that we've learn from this will serve as our tool for our endeavor in life.
"Who ever we are right now it is because of our decision in the past
and Who ever we will be tomorrow is the decision we are going to make now"
*************** Thank you for teaching me that***************
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DEV”S LOVE
 i really dont know how to start and what to say right now. im speechless.
if there is one thing i would like you to know is remember whatever happened with you i will always be here for you. you can count on me. im willing to give up and sacrifice everything i have now.
right now you give me the joy, happiness, strenght. your always there for me.i really dont know what life would bring me without you in my life. i know whatever comes to our life which we dont like is just part of trial for us to become a better person. we will get through with this we will help each other.
i also want you to know that i love you so much for i dont know what to do without you...
i stay beside you forever i realy love you forever rest of my life kali.  There are moment in my life where I really want to give up
But when I have you to be part of my life everything changes
You give me smile when I don’t expected it
You give hope so I can hold on
You also give me tears when your not expecting to.
But inspite of these. I want you to know that I am very much thankful
We’ve met and come to know each other even it is not that long
But it was a meaningful one.
You have your own priority in life so do i
But whatever it is you know you have my support
Im always at the back of you whatever you decision in life.
But right now I am totally upset and confuse for what your showing me.
All I know I want somebody to be with me forever.
Someone that I can lean on.
Someone that will make laugh uncertainty
Someone that will push me when I wanted to step back.
Someone that will take care of me as well.
Someone that will not live me until my last breathe.
Someone that will be proud of me with everybody.
Someone that will accept me for who I am and who I am not.
Every time I feel so ALONE…
Im really tired of my life
That’s why I try give up now.
I really don’t know why im working this hard.
…for what! I don’t have that someone to share my success and happiness in life…
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